I didn't see it coming!

In the past few years, I've run into two concept statements that have a huge impact on who I am becoming. Neither one is comfortable; both are imperative to rational living. And both are frequently ignored in our society.
#1: I am responsible for the choices I make -all the choices I make. They are not anyone else's fault, failure, blessing or curse and today's choices are tomorrow's life. No one else is tied to or responsible for my neglect, blunder, misstatement, bitterness, success, satisfaction, happiness or zeal.
  Sometimes I figure other people into the choices I make.  While considering others is a good thing, making choices built on another person's involvement, willingness to help or availability when I want it, is a bad idea.  Sometimes I need help- we all do; that is a given.  But we must be willing to deal with the variables of working others into our plans.  The more people involved, the less control we have in the outcome and pacing and we still cannot lay blame at the feet of another; it was our choices that brought them in and it is our choice to keep them in. (I'm not really talking about marriage. That brings an extra dynamic. It does have much of the same reasoning though.)  There is a time to evaluate whether it is impatience on my part or whether I should change my plan.  This leads me to the second truth.
#2: I can only work with what I have. I cannot work with what I had, what I will have, or what I should have or might have had. I must create my hours and minutes with what I have: financially, emotionally, support-wise, time, resource and physical ability. Sometimes understanding what I don't have leaves me free to get inventive with what I do have. There is almost always another route to a desired end.  Mourning what I've lost or dreaming of what I will have, while entertaining or sometimes briefly necessary, will not make today successful or productive. If entertained too long, these will only create impossible scenarios that keep me from achieving the possible.
Fallacy creeps into my thinking without permission and I find myself distracted, discouraged and sometimes derailed. I find I must guard my heart and mind carefully and weigh my train of thought against what I know is true many times daily or that train will run over me and leave me wounded and ineffective. "Take every thought captive" is this mornings word for me.
Blessings.