I
got pulled off teaching art into a philosophical discussion. At first
the student began with the common combative faith questions. I gave
him serious, sincere answers. He was responding very positively once
he saw I wasn't giving stock answers but those I have accepted from a
position of seeking.
After
one question, I told the student "I sometimes say 'I do believe
I'm always right. If I don't think I'm right, I change my mind and
then I'm right.'" I told him I say it as a joke, but then, maybe
not.
He
responded "I get that. You think about things before forming
your opinion and you're willing to change but only if you've thought
it through." It surprised me. He really did understand what I
was saying. I respected him more for his thought process than for his
opinion of what I said.
I
have a very strong ethic about teaching when I'm supposed to be
teaching and what I'm supposed to be teaching. Most of the time, I'm
paid to teach art. Integrity says I teach art. When his mother
signed him up for my classes, she said she felt like I was an honest
and stable Christian and since he is struggling some with his belief,
if I wanted to get off subject with her son she wouldn't be offended.
I looked at some of his questions on Friday after the fact, and some
of my answers after the fact, and I'm not so sure she would have
approved of all of them.
Yet
I was honest even if not totally conventional in my answers. I know
what I believe and I know why I believe it. I don't change easily.
It's not because I'm against change, but change has to be for the
right reasons. It's very easy to get on a bandwagon, to make snap
decisions based on emotion, partial information or other people's
opinions. It's easy to soften or even abandon our belief to placate
or support someone we care about. It's just as easy to spout quotes
and opinions of people instead of pursuing a belief we can get behind
with our entire mind and heart.
We
can search for truth, but because of our Humanity, our backgrounds,
and our teaching, there are truths that we may never totally
understand until we get to heaven and have an unclouded viewpoint.
This young man is searching for his own truth. To a degree he's
rejecting his parents' truth simply because it is his parents' truth
and he sees some discrepancy in their lives. That discrepancy, of
itself, has no bearing on whether their truth is true. The strange
part that I see, is that there are parts of that truth that have been
so ingrained in him that he is unwilling to give them up even if they
create instability with his new “truth.”
I
encouraged him to look for truth, to make it an honest pursuit, to
not settle until he had uncovered a truth he could live from, a truth
he was willing to die for. Personally, I don't think he's ready to
do that. I don't think he has the stamina, the courage
or the discipline to do that -yet. But at least I put into his head
that he can and should find truth for himself.
I
told him that my truth is based in my understanding and search for
God and it is very personal to me but that I understand there are
things I may never totally understand in this life but I have what I
need to live and to die. He seemed to accept that -for me. But
that's what faith and truth are really all about: my truth; my faith.
Some
of the questions: How do you know you personally have THE truth? Do
you belief in life on other planets? What do you believe about
activism? Is one sin worse than another? What do you think about
Black Lives Matter? There were more.
I
recall one Sunday morning when I was praying for family and friends.
A man in our church said. “This is your gift. Open your hands and
receive the gift of God for you.” I told God I wasn't concerned
with receiving the gift for myself. I want all the people I love to
get that gift. God spoke very surely to my spirit. “It is your
gift. You cannot share it, you cannot give it away.” I felt
suddenly sad and tears welled up into an unspoken protest. But to my
pain he replied. “You can tell others where you got it. I have
enough for every person on earth.”